LGBTQ+ individuals often experience higher rates of sexual violence compared to their heterosexual and cisgender peers. This elevated vulnerability can stem from factors such as societal stigma, discrimination, and marginalization. Additionally, LGBTQ+ survivors may encounter barriers when seeking help. These can include fear of not being believed, experiencing further discrimination, or facing a lack of understanding from service providers.
Creating a supportive environment starts with understanding these unique challenges. When it comes to supporting survivors of sexual violence, every response matters. Knowing how to provide empathetic, informed support is crucial as an ally, friend, or family member. Here’s how you can make a positive difference.
How to Respond with Compassion
1. Listen Without Judgment
When survivors share their stories, listen with an open heart and mind. Avoid making assumptions or judgments about their experience. Your role is to provide a safe space where they feel heard and validated.
2. Use Inclusive Language
Respect the survivor’s gender identity and sexual orientation. Use their preferred names and pronouns. Avoid language that can invalidate their identity or experiences.
3. Acknowledge Their Experience
Validating their feelings and experiences is crucial. Simple phrases like, “I believe you,” and “It’s not your fault,” can offer significant comfort and reassurance.
4. Educate Yourself
Understanding the specific needs and issues faced by LGBTQ+ survivors can enhance your ability to provide meaningful support. Educate yourself on terms, concepts, and the particular forms of violence that LGBTQ+ individuals might face.
5. Connect Them with LGBTQ+ Friendly Resources
Guide survivors towards resources that are specifically designed to support LGBTQ+ individuals. These can include crisis centers, support groups, and legal assistance organizations that are inclusive and affirming.
Providing Ongoing Support
1. Respect Their Privacy and Autonomy
Let the survivor take the lead in deciding what steps to take next. Respect their decisions and privacy and avoid pressuring them into actions they are not comfortable with.
2. Be Patient
Healing from sexual violence is a long and non-linear process. Be patient and offer continued support, even if it takes time for the survivor to open up or seek help.
3. Advocate for Systemic Change
Advocacy can take many forms, from supporting inclusive policies to challenging discriminatory practices within institutions. By advocating for systemic change, you help create a safer, more inclusive environment for all survivors.
Supporting LGBTQ+ survivors of sexual violence requires sensitivity, understanding, and a commitment to inclusivity. By responding with compassion and equipping yourself with the right knowledge, you can make a profound difference in their healing journey. Remember, every survivor’s story is unique, and your support can help them feel seen, heard, and empowered to reclaim their lives.
National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs
24-Hour Hotline: 212-714-1141
www.avp.org
The Trevor Project
24-Hour Hotline: 1-866-488-7386
Text ‘START’ to 678-678
www.thetrevorproject.org
FORGE
414-559-2123
www.forge-forward.org
Pride Center San Antonio
210-370-PRIDE (7743)
www.pridecentersa.org
PFLAG San Antonio
210-848-7407
www.pflagsanantonio.org
THRIVE Youth Center
210-212-2935
www.thriveyouthcenter.org
FIESTA Youth
210-390-0730
www.fiesta-youth.org